Is it weird that I don’t miss people when they’re gone?

No — it’s not weird. Plenty of people don’t strongly “miss” others in the way movies or popular culture suggest.

It can happen for a few different reasons:

• You may be very independent or comfortable on your own.
• You may be secure in the relationship, so being apart doesn’t trigger anxiety.
• You may simply process emotions in a less separation-focused way.
• Some people have attachment or coping styles that make them feel more emotionally detached when someone isn’t present.

A couple of cautions: “object constancy” is a real psychology term, but it’s not the same as object permanence, and not missing someone doesn’t automatically mean anything is wrong. Also, some neurodivergent people do describe an “out of sight, out of mind” experience with social connections, but that isn’t universal and doesn’t by itself mean there’s a problem.

It’s usually healthy if you still care about the person, enjoy being with them, and feel connected when you’re together. It may be worth looking into more if you feel numb in general, struggle to care about people at all, or use distance to avoid vulnerability.